Monday, June 6, 2011

Wounds of words.

Every time, when someone does a bad thing to me, or that I dislike, I tend to think bad of that person. We all do. Isn't it? Because we are angry, we hurt numerous people unknowingly, or may be knowingly. I wish, we could undone certain things or could take some hurting words back.


But what is said, is gone. It leaves deep everlasting chasms of pain in the heart of the person at the receiving end. That can never be healed.


We all fight, on a regular basis. With friends. With spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend. With parents. With relatives. But how can we prevent from saying those words that are so hurtful and unforgiving? 


To prevent/control anger is extremely difficult job. Those who can who it, achieve the real success and is able to measure the scales in life, for he hasn't hurt the people on his way up. He becomes a respectable person in society, more than who loses his temper and uses harsh/abusive words. Don't you agree? 
Therefore, many people say that drinking water while you are angry helps. BUT, nothing helps. Nothing at all. We tend to use foul language. How do we drink water while we are in rage? It doesn't even strike.  


The only way to control temper is to be patient. Anger destroys everything-Relations, love, and companionship. Resisting the temptation of showing anger is the real task. All the different reality shows these days like Roadies, Splitsvilla.. provoke people to be angry. The harsh and abusive words, will definitely not make the society civilized. And the youth thinks its cool to be abusive. IT'S NOT. It leaves a bad impression on the other person, whatever relation you share. 


After living in Delhi for numerous years now, One thing is for sure, People can't start or end their sentences without abuses. If they themselves abuse, Can they ever stop their own kid? If they can't, One can imagine the kind of generation it'll be. 

2 comments:

Blasphemous Aesthete said...

Patience with words and actions sure helps. At least thinking before speaking can help prevent many situations which can certainly be avoided.

Nice read.

Cheers,
Blasphemous Aesthete

Jack said...

Ritika,

A very thought provoking post. I do get angry, though rarely, with wife but on thinking I am surprised that I have hardly lost temper with others I do not since when. Even with wife, I generally walk out of the room or go silent when angry at something but at the same time if I do retaliate I make it a point that I say nothing personal about her or her parental family. I have maintained it till now and hope to do so till death. I think you just have to programme your mind for that.

Take care